“Why wouldn’t you want to be social?”
“Everyone needs friends!”
"There are plenty of clubs you can join!"
"Have you heard of [insert any group event or Greek organization]?"
“Blah Blah Blah”
Here's a whammy for ya: I already have friends.
I know what you're thinking. It doesn't hurt to make more. I'm aware of that. College is supposed to be the place where you make lifelong friends and all that jazz. But what if I feel I already have "lifelong" friends? What if I feel I already have all the friends I personally need?
I can't fully explain why I am the way I am. That's just me. I'm different; wow, God forbid, right? I'm terrible at initiating conversations, so I usually just don't. And out of that comes not making new friends if no one else takes the time or energy to start a conversation with me. I am not unfriendly or selfish or stuck up or whatever other adjectives there are. I'm just really socially anxious and not outgoing. My disposition is usually quiet, shy, and introverted. I don't necessarily see that as a flaw, because it's just who I am, but I do sometimes find myself being irritated or almost angry that I am each of those things. And I really shouldn't be.
I don't need 100 "friends" to be satisfied. Quality over quantity. I'm not going to college to make a ton of friends. I'm going to college to expand my learning and to strengthen my writing skills so I can hopefully actually do something with them some day. Let me do that the way I want to. If I make one friend, 10 friends, or no friends along the way, then fine. It's seriously not a big deal to me.
This video explains how I feel pretty well, but if you don't want to watch the whole thing, here are some highlights:
"No one is supposed to have 100% likability. You can't please everyone all the time."
"There isn't something wrong with you just because you're a little quieter than other people."
Also, I promise there will be more music-related posts coming very soon, so don't change the channel, stay where you are, grab some popcorn, whatever.
~Stay fly :)